Ride or Die...That Is The Question!!

As I was flipping through my Facebook index this morning, I came across a post about T.I and his wife Tiny being arrested for possession of an illegal substance. I suddenly became irritated and gasped in disgust…and then turned to ask my co-worker if she heard about the situation and she said, yes, I heard it too.

I really like T.I.! I am not a huge fan of rap music but there are certain rappers/hip hop artists that I will listen to repeatedly. In fact, his song “Got Your Back” with Kari Hilson is a huge favorite of mine right now for a multitude of reasons that I won’t share right now.

But T.I. and Tiny’s situation and the whole concept of Ride or Die in regard to relationships has been on my mind. I think I understand the general concept of Ride or Die—basically I am with you through it all…good and bad—you and me against the world. I get it, I really do but I wonder to what extent do we Ride or Die for someone? At what point does someone in the relationship say “Hey...I got your back but I am not going off the cliff with you”.

T.I. was recently released from jail and is, I am predicting on probation. Probation typically comes with a host of rules and regulations and if one fails to adhere to those rules and regulations—they go back to jail. My first question is why would T.I. knowingly and willingly put himself in the situation where he was arrested for possession? (He has a new album out; the movie he is in --Takers was number one last weekend.) I know people never think they will get caught…but they always seem to get caught. Second and most important is…why didn’t Tiny step up and say something—she knew his situation. She got caught too, which leads me to ask the question…does she really doesn’t have his back.

I am no relationship expert—not by any means—but what I know to be true for me is this…if I care for you, love you, want the best for you, and so on…I am really going to have your back and tell you the truth. Sometimes it is hard to do...but it is necessary!! Having someone’s back means that you can sometimes see things that they can’t see themselves and you act as a form of protection against those things that are coming against them…you either alert them of the impending situation or you try to fight it off yourself. I mean that is what I would want someone to do for me if they had my back!! Having someone’s back also means wanting the best for the person in all aspects of their lives and supporting them in their efforts to be better and do better.

I Love You—Yes!! Do I Have Your Back—Yes!! Will I Tell You The Truth…my version of it!! Yes!!! Will I Allow You To Take Me Down With You…NO, NO and NO again.!!. Up is the only way I want to go.

I don’t know if life will ever get better for individuals who repeatedly do the same negative/questionable actions over and over again—always yielding the same result. Some people call that insanity. This situation proves that it doesn’t matter how much money, fame, influence, talent or potential you have…if you don’t make a conscious decision to BE WELL in all matters of your life, then it is all for naught. I am praying for T.I., Tiny and their family.

I AM BACK!!!

Onward and Upward!!