Thanks for My Friends!!

I honestly cannot believe that June is here....it seems that the older you get the quicker time flies by. Well I must admit that I slipped into a typical Tonya moment. I haven't updated my blog since mid May and well I also have been off the path towards accomplishing my goals. Not good!! I had two great weekends at the end of May--one in West Virginia with my family and then another in Atlanta for Memorial Day Weekend. I have been having fun!! This is a great thing!! But I still haven't put my bed back together!! But I am on my way back!!

So I returned from Atlanta today. I actually went to visit one of my besties and had such a fabulous time. When I got home I actually worked hard on my little decluttering project. I have decided that June 26th is my day---the day I will have my stoop sale. All roads between now and then lead to that day. I have to get it done and off the list--there are more important plans for the summer that must go into full swing. While staying at my friend's house in Atlanta I became so enamuored by the space that she had in her townhouse...I mean she had three closets just on the first floor not to mention a garage. All I could say was--Aaahh, SPACE!! I still can't figure out why I have signed up for NYC Apartment living!

Everytime I visit another city, I never want to come back to the one that I am in. I am sure there are a variety reasons for this but there is always something novel about the thought of being in a new place. I have contemplated moving out of New York City for a long time. No really, I have been here for 12 years come July and for the last nine, I have been moving. Except I haven't gone anywhere. Same apartment, same borough, same thoughts everytime I go away about not wanting to come back. HHmmm!

A friend of mine in Maryland asked me last week if I was happy. She has known me for 12 years, heard me talk about a variety of goals and desires for my life, has seen and heard about many of those goals and dreams not coming to fruition. She could also infer from my conversation and lack of focus that I am all over the place...always doing for others and never for myself. She suggested that I spend some time just being and doing for me. I couldn't agree with her more. I love it when my friends are honest with me. We all need people in our lives who are willing to just say some things to us so that we can be the best person that we can be. Far to often, we have too many yes men and women in our lives who are more concerned about what they are getting out of the situation/relationship than that which they can offer to it. As we mature we need those people who call spades..what they are --spades.

I also had the opportunity while in Atlanta this past weekend to see Sex in the City II. It was entertaining...I laughed a lot but I hope the franchise ends here-- while they are still on top. There is no more story to tell. But as I watched the movie, I also thought about the friendship that Carrie, Miranda, Sammantha and Charlotte had. Although their characters are a bit self centered...some more than others...they are all great friends. They learned over the years to love and accept each other for the individual's that they were. They also learned the beauty in reciprocity..in give and take. It doesn't matter what the crisis is, someone is stepping in to help the other out....even if they are hiding the issue at hand from themselves. Although there were many "help a friend" scenes in the movie, I think my favorite was the exchange between Miranda and Charlotte over the challenges of motherhood. It was real, it was relevant, and it was greatly needed. Miranda saved Charlotte, in that brief moment, from herself!!

So I say today to my crew, my inner circle, to the people who never cease at encouraging and supporting and to the one's that say what needs to be said...Thank You!!